Whether you are in Los Angeles, Long Beach, or some other city in the California, when you go for the first time to a Court of Conciliation to discuss custody of your children, it can be a very intimidating experience because you don’t know what to really expect. The Court of Conciliation, which uses Court appointed Mediators, is all about collecting information and coming to a voluntary agreement, and the experience does not have to be intimidating. Before you go to Court, following these five simple suggestions can save you a lot of stress and worry in the long run:
1.Be prepared to go to court. Read all Court instructions about what you are suppose to bring to Court and follow their suggestions to a tee. Courts are institutions that try to operate on factual information, so, they will ask you for proof of any information they request. Proof of income will be a big priority. Take copies of proof of income such as an IRS tax statement or a pay roll stub. Also, make sure you take a copy of any health insurance premiums you pay on you children.
2.Appearance in any Court is very important, especially first time appearances. The Mediator may not know you, and he or she has only your appearance to start sizing your parental abilities, so, appear to be worthy of what you will ask of the Court. Lean toward being clean and professional rather than flashy and uncouth. If you do not appear to take an interest in your own hygiene, the Mediator may get the impression you won’t take interest in the hygiene of your children either.
3.Be on time to your court appearance. Leave your home in plenty of time to reach the Court destination and remember to allow for the screening process at the front door. Your case will most likely not be the only case appointed that day, so, being late will make everyone else late. Your being late will make a lasting impression on the Mediator, but it will most likely not be a good one.
4.Unless the Mediator requests it, do not take your children to Court. Although the Court proceedings are about them, small children do not need to hear what goes on in the proceedings, it is not their business. If the experience can be intimidating for adults, think of how scary it might be for the children. The process is sometime long, and children demand time from you that you will not have during the interview process. So, make arrangements for your children to be cared for in some other place than the Court proceedings.
5.Go to Court with a positive attitude. In most all Custody Courts across the United States, the courts have a vested interest in helping you solve a most difficult situation. They want to do what is best for both parents and children. Going to Court with a negative disposition will leave a lasting impression of the wrong kind and will not help you get what you want. Your child and you both deserve to come out of the process with a bright future, so, be positive, courteous, and respectful. The Court will most likely respond in like kind.
Whether or not you are represented by counsel in your Court appearance, applying these five simple suggestions will go a long way into helping you relieve the stress and worry over your situation. Sometimes you can handle these problems on your own, but sometimes, it is best to have supportive counsel in the form of a divorce Lawyer who specializes in child custody cases. He or she will give you the legal knowledge required to provide the confidence you will need to have a positive attitude for your Court appearance. If you feel you need this kind of help, contact us at www.divorceattorneyhome.com , and we will help you locate the right professional for you.
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